Comments on: Don’t call me Hun.

By: Snarl

Snarl — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 18:47:11 +0000

Hey Hun!

I agree. VERY few folks get to have that kind of dialog with me. Anyone taking such liberty will get a prompt and curt “WTF is your problem” type of response. I for one certainly do not accept the use of any terms of endearment from the general sheeple. That is a priviledge, not a right – RL or SL.

Don’t like that? Good. Piss off.

Howls,
Snarl

By: Kissowa

Kissowa — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 17:20:33 +0000

Really? This is very interesting, it seems that it’s very rude in Europe and Australia but perfectly fine in USA. Wonder how it is in the rest of the world.

By: Faerie

Faerie — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 11:28:17 +0000

It’s considered rude in Australia too, although it does happen (and I hate it when it does).

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By: Marja

Marja — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 03:46:49 +0000

I’m totally with Kiss on this. I hate it, I hate the way people think this term of endearment makes them seem sweet or friendly. I think it’s making an assumption that said person can be that intimate with me.

I think you’re right that there’s a difference in America, as it happens all the time here. I just reply with a tight lipped ‘dear’ and a look of disdain when it happens to me.

In SL, where there’s no way to show your emotions, it bugs me to no end. There’s an inherant assumption that I’m accepting your term of endearment to a stranger with a smile, when I’m really thinking about dropkicking you.

By: Kissowa

Kissowa — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 03:39:39 +0000

It’s very possible that this is a culture difference between Sweden and America, but if a rep here called me “Hun”, s/he would have serious problem with their boss at the end of the day.

I also find that the majority of people that us “Hun” and the likes to people they don’t know (I’m referring to SL now) are people who generally walk around with a air of being a little bit better. You can tell they are oh-so-bothered to have to deal with you, but mask it with throwing these terms around. I approach all unknown people with a level of respect, I expect them to give me the same in return.

By: Is

Is — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 02:57:27 +0000

[Imagine if this was real life. I go to the customer desk at a store and ask for help. No rep in the world would dream of calling me “Hun” in that situation.]
Actually, they would and they do, more often than you’d think. What some people reserve as a term of endearment to those they know well, others use as an address. Rather than sir/ma’am, some use hon, dear, whatever. It varies by location but people often add something like that to the end of their sentences.

[It’s rude and condescending...]
Only if you take it that way. For many people it’s a huge part of their speech and it’s not at all used condescendingly. Whereas you assume they’re being rude, they know they’re just being friendly. I’ve been called boss, champ, dear, hon, sweetie, sweetheart, dear heart, doll, babe, and more. It doesn’t bother me, and I don’t vilify those that say it, because I know the spirit in which it was said.